It’s a given that men love blow jobs—why else would they so freely offer up an entire area of their anatomy that they spend the rest of the time protecting at all costs? Having one’s genitals lovingly ministered to by a delicate mouth is a feeling unlike any other. Use these techniques to get started, but adapt them based on your partner’s feedback.

• Prep. Put your toy within arm’s reach of the bed. Consider bathing together if you’re a bit squeamish about tasting your partner’s genitals.
  
• Position. As always, your comfort is key to your enjoyment, and fellatio puts a particular strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he’s standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. Or he can lie on his back and you can crouch in between his legs, a position that gives you lots of control. To give your neck a rest, try lying on your sides, but instead of lying head-to-toe your head should be facing his penis.

• Get to know his sensitive spots. Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum (the spot between his anus and balls), paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spots on a guy’s penis are the head (known as the glans), the frenulum, a spot between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis, and the seam going up along underside of the shaft.
  
• Give him a lick. Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don’t be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. If you’re practicing safer sex, or you’re not crazy about your lover’s taste, put on a condom and/or some flavored lubricant.
  
• Take him in your mouth. When he’s semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you’re comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis. Don’t worry about sucking, the seal your mouth forms on his shaft creates a natural suction as you glide up and down. If you’re not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don’t try it or you’ll trigger the gag reflex. It’s not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below.
  
• Mouth and tongue. As your head travels up the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don’t be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis--but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure. If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.
  
• Mouth and hand. A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating the timing of your movements. If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head, and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat this stroke several times.
  
• Let him come. When he’s ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm—don’t slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don’t want continued stimulation once they’ve come.