1. Toy with Anticipation
Set the stage for a later encounter by leaving an explicit invitation on your lover's pillow or sending a suggestive email during work. The anticipation will work wonders on both your libidos.

2. Set the Mood
Spend some time planning what would appeal to all your lover's senses. Find out what music turns him on, and play it. If she's fond of a certain scent, find her perfume, bath soap,  or candles and include them in your evening. Consider planning a meal of finger food and feeding it to each other.

3. Get Out of Town
Breaking out of a routine can be all the aphrodisiac you need sometimes. Even if it's just an overnight, having someone else do all the planning and then surprising you with the destination can be a real turn-on.

4. Pack Adventurously
Whether you're heading out of town or you're planning a romantic night at home, prepare a little goodie bag of toys. You can have your lover open it, then enjoy playing with his and hers toys like vibrators, butt plugs, cock rings and colored condoms!

5. Get Wet
Treat your lover to a sensual, relaxing bath. Dim the lights and put scented candles all around, pour in her (or his) favorite bath oil, give a sexy scrub, and slip in a waterproof vibrator.

6. Explore Tactile Territory
Turn an ordinary massage into a tactile adventure. Find out how ice, feathers, fur—-even a hairbrush-- can make your partner's skin tingle.

7. Take It Off
Show off your body and your comfort with nudity--this can be incredibly exciting. Undress as if it were a stage performance, taking care to linger over sexy body parts.

8. Get into Dirty Talk
Seduce your lover with your words. Explicitly describe the best sex you ever had, what you plan on doing, or some fantasy you've always enjoyed. Consider supplementing your hot talk with a toy like the Audio-oh, a voice (or music) activated vibrator.

9. Submit
Experiment with a little power play, by bringing along some wrist restraints or a blindfold. It can be liberating and exhilarating to put such trust in a partner, plus the anticipation of what will come is divine.

10. Be Generous
Whatever it is your lover likes, do it lovingly, thoroughly, and more than once! Don't be afraid to ask, and by all means lavish him or her with compliments and words of affection.