Dear Ask A Man,

I read someplace that only 25 % women "swallow", the rest don't. I have two questions. 1/ The women who don't swallow, what do they do with it, as to not ruin the moment. 2/ Does it really bother men, if you don't swallow. ~ Name withheld by request



Hey,

Good question! I think they use their hand and wipe it on the sheets. Or massage it into the skin, I hear it's a great moisturizer. Either way, I don't think it's of great importance after the fact. If it bothers a guy that you don't swallow, tell him to give you a very wet orgasm and then see if he swallows.
Craig, 20 Something...

Hi,

I do not think that not swallowing has to ruin the moment. Just don't make a big deal about it--slip out of the room quickly and return, no need for apologies. To answer your second question: I don't think that it bothers most men if you don't swallow. If it does, it shouldn't! I know I'm just happy to find a woman willing to do everything leading up to the swallow in the first place Any man is grateful for a good blow job, believe me. It has been my experience that not every woman is willing to perform oral sex at all, so swallowing is like the frosting on the cake…so to speak.
Scott, 30 Something...


Hi,

Don't sweat this one! One "truth" that all men know are that most women don't swallow and got over that little issue when they were about 17 years old. In answer to your specific questions:

1. "What do they do with it?" Well, they do the same thing that most women do after vaginal sex without a condom - they hasten to the bathroom while the man lays there in post coital bliss with his eyes rolled back in his head. Most men do not require immediate post-coital cuddling, so take a quick trip to the bathroom, then come back. Chances are, he won't really much notice that you went!

2. "Does it really bother men, if you don't swallow?" Probably less bothering than paying taxes and commuting in heavy traffic. It's just one of those "facts of life" that most men get used to at an early age.
Jack, 40 Something...

Hi,

Ok, first question first. You can "not swallow discreetly". Have a Kleenex near by, turn your head and split into it or excuse yourself and go to the bathroom. As long as you don't go "yuck, I'm going to throw-up", your going to be all set. Discreet is the magic word here. Your second question; I think that's a very personal thing. Personally I don't mind either way, swallow, don't swallow, I'm just happy to be able to "rise to the occasion" and have oral sex!.
Alfred, 50 Something (actually closing in on 60 very fast)...


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