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| Dear Ask a Man, My lover is much younger then me however he lacks the drive most men have. Please give me some ideas how to get him interested again and aroused. I am 53 (but Look Much Younger) and he is 29. I am so horny and frustrated, just last night I aroused myself into a fantastic orgasm, but it was not the same as if he and I were together.~ Thank you, Erotica |
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| Hi, I think it will take some experimentation on your part. Men are extremely visual creatures, so dressing up in shorter skirts or low-cut tops without making a fuss about it will entice his eyes to look at you, which will inevitably lead in the direction your looking to go. Brush up against his groin area by accident, perhaps while cooking dinner together, or in the store, just make sure to do it discretely and as if you didn't mean to do it. Perhaps toss a cute smile or wink at him, to make him wonder if it really was an accident in the first place. It boils down to, if you really love this man outside the bedroom, then you'll have to put in the work to try and get him to be someone you can love as frequently as is comfortable for both of you inside the bedroom. Don't shy away from conversation. I view relationships as a team effort. If you both love each other and want to continue being a part of each other's lives, then you'll both have to make compromises just as with every other aspect of any relationship. Maybe you won't be able to achieve as much as you want, but as long as he meets you in the middle and you both make efforts to ease the process, then you should both be able to call that a victory. Simon, 20 Something... |
Dating a younger guy can be a challenge but so can dating any guy. Don't downplay the your age and experience as this is what attracted him to you in the first place. Be yourself but research his interests. The more you know about him the more you can please him. Scott, 30 Something... |
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Hi Erotica, At 53 you have a ton more experience then your boyfriend. Use it. Keep trying different techniques until you find one that "does the job". If all else fails, I would seriously sit down and talk to him and see where his head it at. Alfred, 50 Something... |
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