Dear Ask A Man,
Can you list the top 10 things that attracts you to a women and the top ten things that would make you walk away.
Submitted by Peg U.K.



Dear Peg,

Ok here goes:

Attracts:
1 Big Sexy Smile
2 Confidence
3 Good Sense of Humor
4 Dresses like a woman
5 Personality
6 Plays well with others (women)
7 Independent
8 Passionate
9 Educated
10 Ambitious

Turn Offs:
1 Drama
2 Mean
3 Clingy
4 Materialistic
5 Closed Minded
6 Butch
7 Confrontational
8 Whiny
9 Doesn't care about appearance
10 Laziness
Craig, 20 Something...

Hi,

Like: Independence, confidence, sophistication, manners, education, fit/healthy, clean/presentable

Dislike: Overdependence, insecurity, acting dumb, cutsey/baby talk outside the bedroom, unkempt/slovenly
Mark, 30 Something...


Hi U.K.,

Attract:
1. Nice smile
2. "Good Hair"
3. Sexy dresser
4. Good conversationist
5. Shared interests
6. Has "a life"
7. Comfortable in her own body
8. Minimal makeup
9. Tasteful jewelry and accessories
10. Physically fit

Walk Away:
1. Self-centered
2. Negative attitude
3. Needy (i.e. poor self esteem or body image and needs a lot of propping up)
3. Too much makeup (what is she trying to hide?)
4. Slutty dresser (out hunting, is she?)
5. Focuses on material goods and status
6. Baby-making time clock is ticking at a deafening volume
7. Bitter about past relationships or life in general and needs to tell you all about it!
8. Bad hair
9. Workaholic
10. Drives a mini van
Jack, 40 Something...

Hi,

Can't answer this question... sometimes it can be just the look in her eyes, her smell or something like that. Other times it could be something totally different. It could be one thing that attracts me to her or twenty things it depends on the moment.

As for the top ten for walking away, can't really say... I don't have any real list or reason that comes to mind. I guess it's first impression mostly.
Sssh Guest Panelist David, 40 Something...
Hello,

Pluses: a striking face, that she laughs easily, that she isn't proper - a bit baudy, nice figure, and that she pays attention when I pontificate.

Minuses: She acts pushy, or dour, or talks constantly,...
Alfred, 50 Something...




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