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Talk about safety
If either one of you is not happy with a situation, tell each other about
it. If you're uncomfortable, you won't have half the fun you could have
when you don't have to be concerned about safety. Since trust is an important
factor in erotic power exchange, feeling safe is certainly one of the
aspects here. Unsafe situations usually occur, not because people want
to play unsafe, but because someone doesn't know a situation is unsafe
with his or her partner or doesn't recognize it as unsafe.
Build up your scene
Take your time when you play and don't try to do everything at one time.
Experiment and explore. Take it one step at the time. It's easy to add,
but you can never take away the effect of too much at the same time. This
is especially important for pain impulses. Also remember that you're building
brick upon brick. Being tied up may be the first brick. A nipple clamp
might be next. But now these two things will influence each other. A blindfold
or a gag will intensify sensations and effects enormously. A simple pat
on the back may be harmless in everyday life, when blindfolded and tied
up it may feel like an enormous blow.
Hold back and concentrate
Don't bring too many elements into a game at the same time. Hold back,
concentrate on what you're doing and only add an element when it's functional
and your partner is ready for it. Exploring the effects and possibilities
of just one element at a time can be very creative and tremendously exciting
for both of you.
Be prepared
A scene may lead to fierce and unexpected emotions, and sudden, sometimes
almost spasmodic, movements. Orgasms can be much more intense. Anger,
frustration, crying, yelling - it's all part of the game. Erotic power
exchange is all about emotions. And the dominant partner can, should and
will have emotional releases too.
Physical support
Physically supporting your partner is important. (We'll talk about emotional
support later on). If the body is supported sufficiently this allows for
sudden, unexpected movements and makes your partner feel comfortable with
the situation.
Things NOT to do
Never tie ropes around the neck. Use leather
or steel collars
that leave sufficient room (two fingers) to breath.
Never leave someone tied up and alone
in the house.
Never use pieces of cloth or cotton stuffed
in the mouth
for a gag (they can kill!).
Never use wire or coat hangers in an SM-game
(for bondage or whipping).
Never use drugs or chemical substances.
Never do anything that you don't know
about.
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