It's a known fact that both men and women's dreams and desires about sex can be very different. Women tend to view the romantic side of things and focus on specific actions, while men look at the entire thing as a whole and do not focus on any one thing, but rather the entire act.

Over the next few paragraphs we will look at the Top Male and Top Female Fantasies.

Top Male Fantasies

1. Ménage à Trois

Also known as a threesome, this has always been the top fantasy for many men. I am not sure if it stems from being able to brag to their buddies that they did it or to see if they can handle two women (or two women can handle him).

Many men wish they could incorporate this with their partners, the adverse effects can be detrimental to a relationship. Furthermore, if you want this to work, be prepared for many happy hours of discussions, surrounding boundaries and such.

2. Different Location
In many relationships, the only place that they have sex is in their house. It takes place at the same time, on the same day, in the same room. A change in location can change a relationship for the better.

3. Getting Caught
Just by knowing that someone can walk in on you makes sex more exciting. Many of the couples partaking in the actively are not hardcore exhibitionists, they do it just because they love the thrill. But beware of the consequences, such as getting caught!

4. Prostitution
You might be surprised to find that your man can find this arousing. Many men feel that prostitutes are professionals at sex and will be better in bed. Prostitution can also lead to fulfilling the Ménage à Trois fantasy.

5. Voyeurism
Men get excited when it comes to sexual activity, if a man's not doing it, he wants to watch it. Real voyeurism lies in a guy watching a women or a couple having sex without them knowing.

6. Role Playing
Men are visual creatures and seeing a woman dressed up in a different outfit can make their mind run wild. A French maid, a female police officer, or even a cheerleader can get then excited.

7. The Off Limits Women
Sleeping with a women that is off limits (ie: boss' wife, brother's girlfriend and the worst one of all, your girlfriend's best friend) is a fantasy that, if fulfilled can have grave penalties.

8. The Stranger or Celebrity
Men fantasize about seeing someone, meeting them, having sex, and then never seeing them again. It is just some random stranger who they have just met. This might include having a one night stand with someone in a plane or picking someone up when traveling.

9 The Aggressive Female
Men, who are usually the aggressor when it comes to sex, dream of being with a women that will dominate what happens in the bedroom. They want to find someone who is comfortable with their sexuality and controls the entire situation.

10. The Virgin
A lot of men have a fantasy about being a women's first lover.

Top Female Fantasies

1. Role Reversal
Many women want to know what it's like being a man. Role reversal is when a women takes a strap on and uses it to have sex with her partner. If it's something you want to try, just make sure you have lots and lots of lube.

2. Rape Fantasy
This is an extremely popular fantasy among women. Some stranger barges into your home, holds you down, and has their way with you.

3. Being a Stripper or Prostitute
These women want to be treated like a prostitute or stripper. Being told what to do and of course getting paid for it.

4. Group Sex
Like many men, women also think of having a threesome, but her threesome involves having another male.

5. Another Woman
Women imagine what it would be like to be with someone of the same sex, someone that knows how she wants to be touched and what will make her orgasm.

6. Dominate Him
Many women fantasize about being the aggressor and dominating the situation at hand. This includes tying him up and doing as she wishes to him. Another favorite is telling him what sexual acts to perform on you as well as making him beg for what he wants. So how do you make a man let go of their sometimes controlling nature when it comes to sex? Here's the secret girls, just give him a good whack with a paddle across is ass and he'll start to listen pretty fast.

7. Have others watching
This is where the exhibitionist comes out. Many women love to have sex in public where people can watch them perform. Though it might not be what your man is wanting. A good (safe) alternative is to get him to tell you in great detail what he would like to do to you. Make sure it's in public, where someone might overhear.

8. Dominate her
On the other side of the coin, many women want to be dominated and told what to do during sex. Even though it sounds like a guys fantasy, what the women does during this is her fantasy. Some women said they would listen to their partner, while others said they would do the opposite of what her master said just to receive the punishment.

9. Have many men touch her at the same time
This one is hot! and involves as many men as possible, kissing you, touching you, and penetrating you. All the while just sits back and enjoys the sensations.

10. Stranger
Meeting a stranger for one night of great sex where you can do anything you want and have anything done to you. This is where uninhibited sex takes place and you will not be judged, regardless of your requests. Many women still worry about what you will think of her if she has slept with many men or has had sex with another. The meeting with a stranger throws out all these worries.

Remember when fantasizing, you are the one in control, and the one who receives all the pleasure. You control the entire situation in your mind.