The single most powerful organ of the human body is the brain. One of the most powerful things a brain can do is create images of pleasure and joy, be it through errant thoughts, daydreams or fully developed fantasies. So much of a woman's personal erotic exploration happens inside her head! All those secret desires and urges, swirling amidst the mundane chores of life. A trip to the grocery store could be highlighted by the mental image of the clerk in the shower. Or your hairdresser in lingerie. Or a saleswoman, undressing you. Doesn't really matter where you are or what else you're doing. The person who inspires you could be anywhere. And inside your own brain, you can be as assertive or submissive as you like.

Is there a woman out there, hetero or bi, who *hasn't* fantasized what it would be like to make love with another woman? The softness and heightened romance of an intimate setting, just you and a lovely lady. A woman who can appreciate the difference between aggressive and assertive. A kiss stolen across the dinner table. Never underestimate the supreme erotic power of a simple kiss. It's amazing what two inches of flesh pressed together can inspire. Feather light yet electric touches of fingertips on your shoulders, then down your arms, finally taking your hands in hers . . .
Perhaps you'd rather entice than to be enticed. Think of that striking woman who always catches your eye on the way to work. Maybe you'd start chatting with her, invite her for a drink. In a quiet corner of a bar you captivate her with your desire for her, while chatting about nothing. You let her know she's the only one you see, the only one you want. She responds by leaning in toward you, simultaneously pressing her breasts together and lifting them, giving you the perfect view of her velvety cleavage. . .

It's always different, yet some things are common to all my fantasy women and situations. Fantasy women are confident, playful, tender, passionate and thoughtful for me, as my mind desires at the time I'm dreaming them up. There's no rejection in fantasy, so I indulge myself. One scene could be with an old friend I've never played around with, one with a celebrity, one with a total stranger. Is it wrong to have sexual fantasies about a female friend? I don't think so. Who knows you better than your best girlfriend? (Besides, guys do it all the time. ALL the time.) While I've never met Winona Ryder or Catherine Zeta-Jones, each will forever hold a special place in my erotic fantasies. And the chance sexual encounter with a stranger is another list-topping fantasy in my book.

The truly beautiful thing about fantasies is that they are with you anywhere, anytime. You are in control of when that scene plays in your head. The fantasy can stand on its own or become foreplay for a real life encounter. Or be the private reason you're smiling during a dull meeting. However you wish your fantasies to serve, there they are, ready to go. You can share one or two with your partner if you wish. Telling your partner one of your fantasies can be equally intimate as any physical act. Fantasizing about being with a woman is something a guy can relate to. In my experience, sharing a lesbian fantasy with a man not only turned him on, it turned me on twice as much because of his reaction. But should you tell all your fantasies? Hell no! They are created by you, for you. Some images are enhanced by the secrecy of your own head, and just don't translate into words for others. Some situations that inflame you are just for you, and that's perfectly legitimate. Fantasies are you own personal ground. Share them, keep them, play them to your heart's content.


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