Bi-Curiosity—The View from Over the Hetero Hedge!

When men talk about being bi-curious, it get s a bit weird. Because, if a man has homosexual leanings, but identifies as a heterosexual, he might be apprehensive about exploring the other side of things because, well, men often have all sorts of issues with confronting their latent homosexual feelings. Even admitting they think another man is handsome or nicely-dressed can lead others to think a man has homosexual feelings or tendencies.

Big deal, right? Who cares? Well, oddly enough, even in the sexually-sophisticated world we live in, homophobia is still a problem for many bi-curious men. This may account for the secrecy and anonymity of sexual activity in the homosexual community—not among men comfortable with their gayness, but because of those who are exploring beyond the boundaries of their straight lifestyle!

Good for the Goose? Or the Gander?
Well, it would sure be nice if everyone could just love (or hump) whom they please and not get harassed about it by anyone. Strangely enough, women who express their attraction to other women, or who wonder aloud about lesbian sex, are not only not ostracized to the same degree as bi-curious men—they are often seen as sexually liberal and adventurous!

I am not sure I have ever understood why it is that men find “girl-on-girl” action hot, but women don’t tend to feel the same about gay male sex. I have seen some gay male porn, and, hey, I’m sorry, but what’s not to love about totally ripped guys getting it on with each other? Some may say that lesbian sex is not as “threatening” as gay sex because women are more “sensual” and the focus is on foreplay, not fucking.

Hard Centers or Soft Centers? All the Chocolates in the Box!
Know what I think? I think it all depends on whether you’re more into dick, or pussy. (Sorry if that is crude, but let’s call it what it is) I also think bi-curious people (who are not necessarily actively bisexual) are way more likely to enjoy fantasizing about same sex liaisons of the opposite gender than people who wish only to identify themselves as straight. Because bi-curiousness, let’s face it, is often more about the fantasy than the act.

So my theory is that women who like to look at other women, and find women attractive, and enjoy watching lesbian sex on film or reading lesbian erotica, and who maybe would feel comfortable kissing or fondling other women, but maybe draw the line at “getting genital” with another woman, are also the type of women who would get turned on by watching some nice erotic gay porn! (Note: I am not sure if this theory applies equally to bi-curious men enjoying watching girl-on-girl action—but I’d welcome any comments on the subject! Guys?) Because we are the sort of women who enjoy fucking, sucking and doing all sorts of sticky, hot, imaginative things with men’s bodies, but we also accept that doing this stuff with a woman’s body would be cool, too, at least in theory.

Yes, theory. Because “bi-curious” usually means you haven’t actually done the deed…yet!

This begs the question: once you go beyond, say, some kissing and groping fuelled by champagne or some good hashish or a very special episode of “The L Word”—once you go from above-the-waist petting to below-the-waist fingering and licking and mind-blowing mutual g-spot masturbation, once you have soared beyond “curious” to “been there, done that, and wow it was great”—does that make you bisexual?

Answer: Only if you want to do it again!

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About the Photographer:
If you asked Octavio 20 years ago if he knew he’d be living in the U.S. someday taking photos of beautiful girls his answer would be YES. Born in the Philippines, his humble beginnings involve cutting out the most risqué photos from his mother’s fashion magazines and creating his own breed of style mags. No wonder this guy’s got an eye for style and beauty.Through adventures in countries the likes of Argentina, Chile and Iran, Octavio finally settled in NYC where he worked in the music industry for twelve years. Although his heart remained true to loud and fast music, he couldn’t get the image of those beautiful girls out of his mind.Sunshine, cool cars and of course, hot gals led Octavio to Los Angeles. He sought to capture glamour through pin-up style photographs which he put together on his website Winkytiki.com. Much to his delight, Octavio’s talent drew many naughty nymphs his way. He soon started working as a photographer through the contacts he made through his models.His models include a plethora of beauties including Dita, Tera Patrick, Holly Madison and Masumi Max. Octavio has also photographed Denmark’s up and coming band the “Horror Pops” along with other Los Angeles local bands. You can check out Octavio’s pin-ups on his website Winkytiki.com along with featured portraits on hotrotcondoms.com. and GQ’s German on-line magazine at www.gq-magazin.de/gq/index.php.*Octavio’s unique but subtle sense of humor shows in his work. By combining classic glamour techniques with contemporary styling, his photographs bring out the beauty of his subjects. Being a fan of the works of the classic pin-up photographers like Peter Gowland, Bruno Bernard (Bernard of Hollywood) and the camera club shooters of the 1950’s, Octavio is able to maintain a sense of timelessness in his work but at the same time keeping up with the esthetics of contemporary times.You can contact Octavio at 323-644-2689 or through his website at octavio@winkytiki.com.