This brings me to an important distinction: we often equate male member endowment with length, but anecdotal evidence suggests that girth and width are actually far more important for sexual pleasure. So if your man is blessed with a short but stout chubby, be sure to let him know this makes all the difference!

But let's get to the point of this article and why you're reading it. If your man is a smaller than the average bear, and this affects your sex life, you may need a bit of help with how to make the most of what he has.

He may have the most tantalizing tongue and the most formidable fingers in the known universe, but sometimes there is nothing like being fucked senseless to really make a, well, deep connection to your partner. This article will offer you some tips to enhance sexual pleasure with positions and techniques designed for the smaller than average man.

But before we get started, please bear in mind that, for some men, this is a very sensitive issue. If your man is evolved and happy with who he is, chances are he has no problem with his size and his attitude is, Hey, I will work with what I have. But if a former sex partner (or more than one) has pointed out his size, or, worse, laughed or made disparaging comments or made him feel inadequate because of something he has no control over, this can be very psychologically damaging. Unfortunately, our culture places a lot of emphasis on men's sexual prowess, and the idea that a man must be large and strong and well-endowed is equated with the ultimate in masculinity.

Personally, I have observed a phenomenon known as “short man syndrome” in which men whose height is less than average believe they have larger-than-average penises to make up for it. Some of them actually believe this is a fact of nature, that all short men are “given” larger equipment. I find this a bit silly, but, having been with a few shorter than average men (I am only 5'3” myself), it does seem to be a fairly active sexual myth. My point is that men's physical attributes can often figure very significantly into their self image and personal confidence.

So if you think there is any chance your man's feelings may be hurt at the suggestion that he's not quite big enough to satisfy you (remember that episode of "Sex and the City" where Samantha finally told off her sweet but small lover with cruel finality? “Your dick is too small!” were her words. Ouch!) then the smart and kind thing to do would be to introduce these positions without any sort of explanation. Many couples tend to fall into a pattern; once they find out their respective sexual preferences, they will repeat these behaviors because they know it will lead to mutual pleasure. But after a while we may feel the need to shake things up a bit and introduce some new moves. No matter how long you and your man have been together, if you suggest you'd like to “try something new” he will probably be eager to go along for the ride, so to speak.

The best way to deal with this situation (try not to think of it as a problem, this can add negative thoughts to the process) is to engage in positions that allow for deeper penetration. Maybe you've already tried some of these, but this time keep in mind these positions, with practice, will allow your man to satisfy you in ways that will increase your pleasure and his self-confidence.

One of the best positions is for you to lie face down on the bed (or on cushions on the floor) and have your men get on his knees and enter you from behind, after lifting your legs to wrap around his waist or hips. He can support himself easily this way and control the depth of penetration. The drawback of this position is a lack of face-to-face intimacy, but you can try and turn your head so you can see each other, or install a mirror on the facing wall. If you are not used to rear-entry positions, this may take some getting used to; some women find it uncomfortable because they feel a lack of control. But these positions can lead to a great deal of mutual pleasure, so try them out.

“Doggie-style” (you on your hands and knees as he enters from behind) can work well, too; keep your back arched and your ass thrust outward. You might want to do some yoga stretches and sit-ups in preparation for this so your lower back does not get sore. Hold in your stomach muscles when you walk, this promotes strong abdominals and keeps the lower back strong. Your man can also hold one of your legs against him to achieve maximum penetration, be sure to stay balanced but if you fall over laugh it off and start again.

If you like to be on top, there are ways for you to get maximum penetration this way too (although this position is normally used to get better clitoral stimulation). If you sit on him, or lean forward and support yourself on your hands, you can get deeper penetration this way. You might also try lying flat on top of him and focusing on good clitoral stimulation during intercourse, then switching positions to achieve more depth and having him massage your vulva so you can climax together.

Trying something new is not limited to intercourse positions, though. Sometimes spicing up your sex life involves trying things that have nothing to do with the sex act itself! Check out our advice on fantasies, oral sex and other topics to make sure you and your partner are using your imaginations and bodies for maximum enjoyment.