What Kind of Stud is He?

So, we know you think he's the bee's knees, but is the guy you're dating as studly as you think he is? Maybe he's a tender lover but a boring party date? Maybe your friends think he's a player? It's hard to see our lovers in an objective way, but it's good to take a step back once in a while and see if love really is blind! Try this quiz to find out what kind of stud your man is.

1. How often does your guy ask if you can try something new in bed?
a. He doesn't ask, he just does it!
b. Fairly often, he is pretty inventive.
c. We're pretty comfortable with each other but we try new positions occasionally if we are both into it.
d. He's not so into trying new things but loves it when I do
e. My guy is not all that adventurous in bed, but he gets the job done.

2. How much does your guy have to do with planning/paying for your dates?
a. He always knows the best places to go, and always pays our way.
b. He likes to try new restaurants and likes to find inexpensive but creative things to do.
c. We both have input, and usually try to split the check or take turns paying.
d. He's not that into going out but we do have a favorite restaurant we go to 2 or 3 times a month.
e. We rarely go out unless I insist on it. He'd rather stay in most nights.

3. How often do you and your guy communicate during the week, including phone and email, to plan your weekend activities?
a. Every day, several times, he likes to "check in."
b. Once a day, usually; we spend several nights a week together.
c. He calls/emails me or I call/email him during the week so we can plan the weekend. Sometimes we'll get together during the week if it's convenient.
d. I usually do the communicating, he lets me plan the weekend.
e. We have a pretty set routine so we usually just know when we're seeing each other with minimal communication.

4. How much do you know about your guy's female friends and acquaintances?
a. Not much. He never brings up any female friends, but we seem to run into his exes in public often enough.
b. He's mentioned an ex girlfriend or two and has a couple female friends at work.
c. We both have friends of both genders and hang out in mixed groups often.
d. He's got some steady friends, male and female, that we see on occasion.
e. I don't know many of his friends, and none of his exes.

5. How often does your man like to have sex?
a. As often as possible, sometimes several times a day.
b. He'd prefer to have it every time we're together, and likes to do it at odd times or in strange places sometimes.
c. Often, but we also like cuddling together as much as making love sometimes.
d. He doesn't initiate it as often as I would like, but he never refuses.
e. Fairly often but it's not usually spontaneous.

6. How often does your guy change plans at the last minute when you have a date planned?
a. He's done it before and will probably do it again.
b. Hardly ever and only if something sudden or unavoidable comes up.
c. We try not to do this but of course we're both busy and it's unavoidable; we just have more fun the next time!
d. He wouldn't do this unless it was an emergency.
e. Never, we hardly ever make social plans.

7. Is your guy vain or proud of his appearance? Does he spend a lot of time and effort on it? (Clothes, hair, body, grooming?)
a. Yes, absolutely; maybe a bit too much.
b. He is well dressed and buff; he takes pride in his appearance and I like that.
c. He's a clean guy and healthy and active, but not that bothered about going to the gym or wearing designer clothes.
d. He has a good grooming routine he follows and sometimes asks for advice on what to wear.
e. He could use some help in this area, to look more stylish.

8. How does being with your man in public make you feel?
a. Sometimes I get a little nervous that I am not pretty or sophisticated enough next to him.
b. He's a real catch and I can tell he likes for us to be seen together.
c. I like being with him anywhere, we have a good time together wherever.
d. Comfortable and safe.
e. Sometimes I feel like he's only there for my sake.

9. My man's attitude towards my sexual pleasure is:
a. Attentive and goal-oriented; if I don't come he takes it personally and makes sure he does something to rectify the situation.
b. Considerate and determined; he's eager to please and never selfish.
c. Completely mellow and in synch with me; he'll be my zombie love slave one minute, my Zen monk the next.
d. Sometimes he needs some guidance on what to do but he's a willing student.
e. He doesn't always want to focus on pleasure, sometimes it feels like a before-bed task so he can get to sleep.

If your answers were mostly:

	A. Your man may be a bit controlling or domineering. This type sometimes tries to mold his woman to fit some unattainable ideal to suit his high standards. If he is kind and respectful to you, great, but if you sometimes worry he is crushing your independence, think about breaking it off.

	B. Your guy is sweet and considerate and probably a good boyfriend. You may tend to let him "take the lead" in many things, especially the social arena or in the bedroom, so don't be afraid to demonstrate your own preferences, too.

	C. You and your guy are both very comfortable together and also maintain a healthy amount of space and time apart. You don't seem to have any emotional issues bogging you down. But does your arrangement sometimes feel too casual? Take those communication skills you both have and talk about your relationship sometime.

	D. You and this guy are maybe starting to get into a bit of a routine, if not a rut. He is not necessarily a very assertive person and may defer to you in matters of social decisions etc. Get him to participate more, but you may have to start small, like making him choose the movie. Livening things up in the bedroom might have a liberating effect on his conservative ways, too.

	E. You may sometimes wonder why you are still with this guy. His social ineptitude may make you feel like you are holding back from doing the things you'd like to do (or used to do before you hooked up with this schlub). Get him out there more, or start by suggesting you throw a little party. If he balks and won't budge with calm reasoning, move on to greener pastures.

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