Is He a Waste of Your Time?

We've all been there. You've been seeing this guy, and you're just not sure it's going anywhere. You like him, he likes you, but sometimes (or maybe even often) you find yourself wondering if you shouldn't move on. Maybe you're bored, maybe the sex has grown dull, maybe you just have nothing to talk about. Or maybe you're into him but he doesn't seem to treat you very well. Maybe his nice behavior has strings attached. Take this quiz to see if maybe you need to think about giving him the heave-ho.

1. You call your man and say you're having a really tough day. You still want to see him but you ask if he can take care of having dinner ready. His most likely response:
A. He pouts and says he's had a bad day, too! He'll order a pizza.You get home and he whines and demands a backrub.
B. He asks if you're okay and says he'll whip up his special pasta. When you get home you find he has also cleaned the house!
C. He says he's also swamped and probably can't manage it, is take-out all right? You get home to find he is still not there and he arrives an hour later and asks if you ordered any food yet.
D. He says he'll meet you after work; he arrives with a bunch of flowers and takes you to a nice restaurant.
E. He tsks at you and says you need to figure out how to manage stress better. He says he thinks there's some Lean Cuisine in the freezer.

2. You ask your man to help you shop for a wedding present for your best friend. On the day of the shopping trip, he is most likely to:
A. Act bored and shrug his shoulders when you ask his opinion. Then he will try to get you to go to his favorite sporting goods store so he can get new trainers.
B. Have a print-out of all the places she has registered and circles what he thinks you can afford and what would make a unique gift.
C. Say he "forgot" has something else he has to do and would you mind going without him? You later find out he stayed home and watched TV.
D. Offer helpful comments while shopping and offer to get it wrapped while you relax with a cocktail.
E. Tag along and make snide comments about how your friend's marriage probably isn't going to last long enough for her to use the gift, or maybe snide comments about how much he hates weddings.

3. You do your man's laundry for him and his red boxer shorts accidentally turn his other whites pink. What does he do?
A. Nothing for the moment. But a few days later he "forgets" to put your delicates on the gentle cycle and your favorite lace undies are ruined.
B. He says it's okay but offers to help you sort the laundry next time; he also posts a list of instructions next to the washing machine.
C. He shakes his head and tosses the clothes in the trash. He tells you not to do his laundry anymore.
D. He laughs, hugs you and thanks you for doing his laundry. Then he goes online to "sexymensundies.com and asks you to help him order more.
E. He gets upset and asks why on earth can't you ever do anything right?

4. You and your man are getting into bed. He tries to initiate sex but you are not in the mood. What happens next?
A. He turns away and refuses to speak to you. The next time you put the moves on him, he tells you he has a headache.
B. He says he understands, and kisses you goodnight and goes to sleep.The next day he gets you some herbal tea that promise to perk up your libido.
C. He gets out of bed and logs on to the Net or watches some porn, then comes to bed a while later.
D. He offers to give you a backrub to help you sleep, and after a while of gently caressing you he manages to shift your mood!
E. He tells you you should be grateful any man wants to have sex with you.

5. Your man's friends:
A. Are all from high school or college, he doesn't meet new people very easily.
B. Fall into various categories according to what he does with them: sports friends, work friends, bar friends, home improvement project friends.
C. Change from month to month; he doesn't have many deep relationships.
D. Are an interesting mix of people from different backgrounds, men and women.
E. Are mostly from his workplace, all men, and don't seem to be very friendly.

6. The last party you went to together was most like the following:
A. It was given by one of his friends and you barely saw him all evening, then after being there for three hours he complained that you had not come to find him.
B. It was a big fancy costume theme party and he insisted you both get all decked out and play the part to the hilt.
C. It was his company Christmas party; he got drunk, you got hit on by some jerk, and you left separately.
D. It was a dinner party thrown by one of your mutual friends; a casual but elegant potluck that went on for hours. He offered to drive so you could have fun.
E. It was a formal affair that he wanted you to attend. He made sure you wore the right dress, introduced you to a bunch of people you'd never met before, and told you at least once during the course of the evening to go check your hair/make-up.

	If you had mostly A answers: Your man has some growing up to do. Maybe he is a mama's boy or maybe has some issues from his school days, but either way he is a manipulator and a game player and a scorekeeper. Dump him for someone who's not such a crybaby.

	If you had mostly B answers: He's fun but maybe a bit of a control freak. He may not appreciate that you are capable of doing things correctly and maybe even better than he does. You'll get along better if you stop letting him take care of everything.

	If you had mostly C answers: This guy is barely there, probably wrapped up in his job. Maybe he gets nice when he wants sex, but the rest of the time you may wonder if he even likes you. You may be a trophy to him, or he simply may be unable to get through life alone. Either way, dump him for someone who actually acts like he likes having you around.

	If you had mostly D answers: He's sweet, giving, caring...what's not to love? If you still feel like something's wrong here, it's probably you, not him. If the chemistry is a bit stale, there's plenty of ways to spice things up!

	If you had mostly E answers: This guy is bossy and demanding and probably goes out of his way to humiliate you. No one deserves to be treated like their partner's inferior. He may have his charming ways but if he doesn't see you as an equal it will never work.

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