Why is bondage fun? Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can't prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. "I'm going to make you come and there's nothing you can do about it." It's a very strong statement of trust to let someone bind you helplessly, or even non-helplessly. How erotic, to feel yourself spread open, wanton and wet, and to see your lover kneeling between your legs, ready to use you for their pleasure -- or to pleasure you unendurably....

It's very important to remember that Erotic power exchange (BDSM) is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking.