How To Give The Best Blow Job A Man Has Ever Had

If you're reading this, it probably comes as no surprise that men love to get head. It seems like fellatio and cunnilingus are more popular topics of conversation than ever before, partly because sex practices have changed a bit in the age of deadly STDs (Oral sex is a slightly less risky behavior for transmitting HIV, but you should use condoms with all new partners whose status you are unsure of). But it's also true that our culture has become more comfortable with sex in general, and the notion of pleasure. Sex shops and fetish boutiques and online sex retailers are everywhere now, so classes and workshops on all sorts of topics are now available, depending on what city you live in or near.

Giving a good blow job is an art form. The basic techniques are relatively simple to grasp and with a bit of practice you can become proficient. But the most important factor to giving a good blow job involves enjoying what you're doing! Let your man know you really enjoy giving him pleasure in this way, moan and purr and breathe more deeply when he is about to come.

Here are some tips for making sure it's always a mind-blowing experience!

These are in no particular order, but there are plenty of step-by-step how-tos on the net!

1. Decide whether you're going to use a condom, and then use it from the start! If you don't like the taste of latex there are many flavored condoms on the market.

2. Where is this happening? Make sure you will be able to maintain a comfortable posture–best ways are you on your knees while he is standing, or him lying down and you leaning over him. Not easy in a car so make sure to recline the seats! If you're outside, make sure insects won't be a problem. Nothing spoils the mood quicker than mosquitos biting!

3. If you and your man like having sex in semi-public places, make sure an actual encounter with people is not going to spoil the mood–the key to this fantasy is that actually getting caught or being seen sometimes spoils the mood.

4. If you want to assist with some lube or accessories nearby (cock rings, vibrators, etc.) make sure they will be easy to reach so you won't have to interrupt the mood or the flow of things.

5. That Altoids myth? Just that, a myth. Peppermint oil is actually an anaphrodisiac, meaning it cools desire. But brushing your teeth first can help lessen that gumy feeling you get in your moth after swallowing.

6. About swallowing–you don't have to. But they sure love it when you do.

7. Just after you swallow, be sure to maintain some contact and slight pressure, this will create a fuller orgasmic experience. Listen to his body, he'll tell you what he needs at this moment, or if you can't tell, ask him afterwards what would have made it better for him.

8. If your man takes any sort of prescription drugs or his diet does not have a lot of fresh foods in it (like fruits and veggies) his come may not taste that great. Celery is reputed to make semen taste sweeter. This might be an interesting way to suggest your guy eat a healthier diet!

9. Deep-throating (when you let the entire penis fill your mouth so it touches the back of your throat) is supposed to be part of every good blow job, but it is not necessary and, if your man is very long, can be uncomfortable. I don't think men like it when women gag. But you can perfect your technique so that you can get in some deep throating during the slow, beginning stages of the blow job, so you can focus on faster movements later without gagging.

10. Don't neglect the area around the penis and testicles. The perineum (the skin between the scrotum and anus) is very sensitive to mouth contact. In the interest of hygiene you might want to save this for a post-shower blow job.

11. Some men like to have their balls sucked, lightly chewed or licked, some don't.

12. Before turning your full attention to the penis, kiss and lick the areas nearby, like the insides of his thighs, the lower abdomen, etc. Let your hair drift over his penis as your move your lips closer. Start at his feet and kiss up his leg, this will enhance his anticipation of what you're going to do.

13. Usually bringing the teeth into contact with the shaft of the penis is a no-no, but some men enjoy this sensation. Just be sure to be very focused and use only the lightest pressure. If you have never done this you might try it out on your man–go slow so he knows it's intentional and not just careless technique!

14. If your man is definitely a no-teeth guy, you need to make sure your lips cover your teeth by pressing your lips over them. Having more saliva helps them slide more easily over the penis.

15. Most men like a very wet, sloppy blow job, but some might like it a bit drier for friction. Ask your guy what he prefers.

16. Coax your guy into the shower or tub first, if it seems appropriate. Women often feel more comfortable about receiving oral sex when they feel clean, and I have talked to some men who feel the same way. You can also make a ritual out of washing your man's genitals with a bowl of soapy water and a fluffy towel. Maybe he'll want to do this to you, too! It has an air of working at an old-fashioned bordello about it (women would bathe men's privates to prevent disease because people bathed far less often in those days), so that might be a turn-on.

17. If your mouth gets tired, you can use your hand for a while, and even add some lube if necessary. Some men need a certain kind of pressure to come (especially if they did not vary their teenage masturbation technique), some like lots of variety. Every guy is different.

18. If you don't want to swallow, you still need to let your man have an intense orgasmic experience. Once you feel him about to ejaculate, gently remove your mouth but keep your face close by. Grab him gently with your hand while he comes, and stay there until his breathing slows down. Caress his stomach and inside of his thighs gently, or drape your hair over his penis (careful, this can get messy but maybe that can be fun, too). This closeness will feel similar to being swallowed and he'll have a fuller experience.

19. Every once in a while, give him a blow job without having it be part of your whole lovemaking experience. Push him against the wall in any room of the house and unzip his pants, then get down on your knees. Or bend over him in the driver's seat when you're about to get out of the car. Then tilt the seat back. He won't believe his luck.

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