It does sound quite surprising I know, but in reality it takes more technique, patience and seduction to get a guy to orgasm, in comparison to oral sex, which feels more like the real thing. The beginning of a ‘sexual relationship’ typically starts off with manual stimulation. After couples ‘go all the way’, the hand jobs fade away as most women don’t spend much time giving their man a hand. Hand jobs are great and it could be used plenty of different ways… one for example, to enhance sexual pleasure. It’s actually quite convenient when you think about it. With your clothes on, off… sitting on the subway with your lover and with just a slip of the hand and ooh… it’s safe, its … the possibilities are endless. Some of us women ask ourselves “Why should I give my man a hand job when I can perform oral?” Don’t get me wrong ladies, all men love it and think oral sex is great, but a fantastic hand job will never be forgotten! Let’s break hand play into two separate sections: Preparation and Technique.
Before the Hand Job
How Men Masturbate
How many women out there can say they’ve watched a man masturbate? Have you ever watched your lover choke the chicken? It’s so unbelievable interesting to see a man pleasure himself. Up, down, fast, slow, twist, pull… what I first noticed when I saw a man masturbate is how rough he was with his unit. Perhaps that’s why men are so rough with us when it comes to fingering. Let me know guys. If you’ve never had a man to masturbate for you, now is the time to do it. It’s surprising how much you’ll really learn as to how he wants it. If you’re not inclined in asking him to masturbate for you… definitely keep reading. The dry approach is when a man wraps his hand (or sometimes just a finger) around his penis and moves the entire foreskin up and down. Men tend to use a tight grip with this approach and with each stroke; the skin glides over his muscle. When a man has access to lubrication, the hand mimics the vagina. This method feels more like intercourse. Again the man’s hand is wrapped around his penis and instead of moving the skin up and down, the hand glides over the shaft of the penis. Men are most sensitive around the head of the penis and the frenulum (just below the head of the penis), so it just makes sense to make sure the concentration is focused on the upward stroke.
What’s a good tip to get your man orgasm? Just observe him. While he’s getting himself off, take mental notes to his speed and pressure (usually towards orgasm, the speed picks up dramatically).
Positioning
Position is the most important part of manual stimulation. Not only do you want it your partner to have the best hand job, you want to enjoy giving it to him too. If either of you are in an awkward position, say where your legs could cramp or your hand will go numb, it either stops, or the mood just gets killed.
Most women’s approach is in between their mans legs facing him. But another great way to go is when you’re facing his back and he’s sitting in between your legs. Again, there’s plenty of ways to do it… just get cozy and comfortable and let the games begin!
”The simplest way I give my husband a hand job is while I’m spooning him in bed. No sore elbows, more dexterity and plenty extra motion. ” - Mary, 31
Cleanliness
It is so important to have your hands and nails clean and preferably cut and manicured before starting the hand job. We wouldn’t want them to stick dirty fingers with long nails in us, so why would they? It’s important to take note of the appearance of you hands. What’s also important to take any rings off your fingers as they could do some damage and ruin the mood. The prepared woman would have their hands washed and manicured before the ‘big date’. A little bit of moisturizing cream before hand would make it pleasurable for both them and much easier for you.
Lubrication
Lubrication is important because it prevents chaffing. A lot of people don’t realize that saliva is one of the best (and cheapest) lubricants around. All you do give a little lick, or just open your mouth slightly and let the saliva run down the side of your mouth (and from the feeling or sight of that should get your man going a little too). A wonderful invention is the scented lubricant that helps get the endorphins going. Feel free to mix the lubricant with your saliva for extra benefit.
The Techniques
I suggest trying these techniques first with your own personal sex toy, a zucchini, or a banana to get the motions mastered.
Use a generous amount of lubrication on your hands and be sure to warm up your hands by rubbing them together for a minute to improve and enhance pleasure and comfort to the following techniques.
Note for any hand job technique it is important to apply lubricant generously over both hands. Also, it’s a good idea to warm your hands and the lubricant by gently rubbing your hands together. Start this technique with you positioned so you are sitting between his legs.
Technique 1 – The Master Technique
Step 1
Start with your hands out in front of you with your thumbs down, fingers towards each other (you should be looking at the back of your hands). Now place your thumb and your index finger together. With one hand, (it doesn’t matter which one you start with) gently but firmly grasp the base of the penis so all your fingers are around his penis.
(Pay very close attention ladies because in without this next step, you won’t be in the position to do the twist… and in this technique the twist is crucial.) |
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Step 2
You should still be looking at the back of your hand. Maintaining that form of your hand, stroke up the shaft of his penis in one single continuous motion. When you reach the head, twist your hand slightly outwards. |
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Step 3
When at the top of the stroke, rotate your hand cupping the tip of the penis (keep your hands against the penis maintaining as much contact as possible). Then, follow through downwards (the palms of your hands should now be facing you) |
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Step 4 & 5
Once reaching the base of the shaft completes the downward stroke; your other hand immediately gets into the starting position on top of your ‘finished hand’. .
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NOTE: this is important because the key to a successful hand job is the continuous flow of sensation..
Step 6 - Follow steps 2-5 consistently alternating hands until…
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