Conscious use of breath is important in sex magick.
Any type of bodywork teaches that breathing deeply is important to relax, to free yourself from mental occupation and to get more in contact with your feelings. But there is more:

Breathing helps to charge your sexual battery.

Breathing helps to postpone orgasm/ejaculation.

Partners can circle and increase energy when the active partner inhales through the nose and exhales through the genitals, while the receptive, or other partner inhales through the genitals and exhales through the nose. (This is partly a mental process.)

Partners can also synchronize inhaling and exhaling to tune into each other. In sex magick we breathe into the magical goal we visualize and/or affirm. And finally we can breathe our orgasmic energy into the chosen reality or intention.

Increase the awareness of your breath
First empty your lungs, slowly fill up your belly with air, then your chest and finally your upper lungs up to your throat. Hold onto this air for a while and then start exhaling; first press the air out of your belly with your muscles, then out of the chest area and finally out of the upper lungs. When you have released all the air from your body keep it that way for a while. Slowly inhale from the belly, etc. This is also a very effective way to release stress and increase mental clarity.

Strengthening exercises of the muscles in the pelvis will enable you to selectively increase and decrease sexual arousal. By deliberately contracting these muscles erections will be stronger, while erotic sensations and orgasms in both men and women will be intensified.

Let's start with the pubococcygeus muscle on the pelvis floor.
You'll get to know this muscle by deliberately stopping the flow of urine several times. The way of exercising this muscle is as follows: contract the muscle, as if your stopping the flow of urine and at the same time move it upward as if you wish to pull your genitals inside your belly.

Women can put one or two fingers in the vagina doing this exercise and will notice that the vagina will gently contract as well. Men will notice a bobbing of the head of the penis during contractions.

Advantages of this exercise for both sexes are stronger sexual feelings and curing/preventing of urinary stress incontinence.


Further advantage for women is indirect stimulation of the clitoris and for men an increased erectile potency. The second important muscle system can be exercised by contracting the anal sphincter, as if you are trying to hold back the stool, again accompanied by upward movements of the genitals. If you contract this sphincter strongly you will notice that it is connected with other muscles in the pelvis.

A good way of energizing yourself is the regular exercising of these muscles while visualizing the life energy spiraling upwards along your spine, through your head and moving downward to your genitals again through the front side of your body.

In women the anal sphincter is connected with the vaginal sphincter and other vaginal muscles. By deliberate contractions women can learn to independently contract the vaginal sphincter, the muscles along the vaginal wall and the anal sphincter. Why should they do that? Learning a fluid contraction that starts in the vaginal sphincter and spreads upwards to the womb, as if you are 'milking a cow' gives the penis a massage. You can also start these contractions at the cervix and work downwards to the vaginal sphincter. This way women increase the erotic feelings of both their partner and themselves. Contracting the vaginal sphincter during intercourse will help maintain male erection. Strong contractions of all vaginal muscles at the brink of his orgasm, followed by rhythmic 'milking' movements will intensify orgasm in men.

Once you have learned how to control your pelvic muscles you can consciously relax them to take off sensual pressure at the point-of-no-return and thus postpone ejaculation. So contract them to arouse, and relax them to back off (this goes for both men and women).


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