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Are men and women really so different? Do they really think about sex all the time. Do you sometimes feel like men spend hours ever day plotting new ways to annoy you? Have you wanted to know how a man feels about something, but was never sure whether you could or should ask him, and if you did, was it truly how he felt, or is he just sparing your feelings?

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Dear Ask a Man,

I'm not interested in sex at all, I think it's called asexual. Yet I do love tenderness and connection. Because of the sex thing, I can never keep a boyfriend. Will I ever be able to find someone who will love me for what I have to offer. Can a man be happy without sex. ~ Anonymous in Derry, UK



Hi,

There are men out there that share your feelings. They are obviously somewhat rare I think, but I think if you put in the effort for looking for that person you may eventually find them. If you don't find someone interested in this type of lifestyle, then you'll need to make some compromises and find someone willing to do the same. Sexual gratification doesn't always need to come from sexual intercourse...there are many ways of achieving an orgasm. For example handjobs with lots of lubrication can feel outstanding for a man, and provide wonderful orgasms. be creative, and willing to work with your partner. Remember it takes two to tango, so ultimately find someone you love outside the bedroom and make sure he is willing to meet somewhere in the middle with you. But be honest and up front about it early in the relationship.
Simon, 20 Something...

Hello,

You may consider seeing your doctor as there may be another physical condition causing these problems.
Scott, 30 Something...


Hmmm..... This is an interesting question. In my experience, most of the women I have known with this concern end up partnered with gay men. That. actually, is not a bad life for gals in this paradigm. Think about it. There are a LOT of gay men that really want a similar situation.
Jack, 40 Something...

From what I understand asexual people are pretty common and I'm sure you will find the perfect person.
Alfred, 50 Something...

 

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